"We need to teach well what love is, I mean come on, the most unsexy form of love in our culture is the love of the will that says 'I'm in this and I'm not going anywhere,' and instead our culture views that as 'oh you poor soul, you mean you don't have a bunch of emotive butterflies in your stomach every time you see this person? Well man God didn't want that for you, God would want you to feel that emotive love.' As someone who did lay on the floor and was completely helpless for 18 months and have his wife go 'I love you, I'm not going anywhere.' Let me tell you, It is a far sexier love to have someone see you when you got nothing to offer and are definitely not meeting any kind of their needs to say I love you than those butterflies would ever be. So you got to teach what love is, and you have to teach why this is a gospel issue." - Matt Chandler (from Social Justice and Young Evangelicals | John Piper, Matt Chandler, David Platt by Gospel Coalition)

"When I kissed my wife for the first time, I felt electricity flow through me, and now 35 years later I no longer feel that, because that feeling was just my ego, me being in love with the idea that a girl loves me...I would never ever want to go back to the shallowness of the feeling I had when I first kissed her." - Tim Keller

I Didn't Love My Wife When We God Married Though written by a Hasidic Jew in a non-religious way, this post of his has inspired changed the marriages of many Christians, Jews, and even Muslims alike.

After thinking about it, it is very obvious why the most sexy love appointed by Jesus through the scripture is considered the most unsexy by the world. The two just don't mix (the world hates God), and we need discernment to distinguish between the two standards of love.